I don't talk to him on the phone either. Got That Feeling When yourself? Im 22 and I have been treated bad by a older guy, but I was experiencing these things before that happened. My dad has never molested me or anything, but he once made me really uncomfortable when he called me "sexy" (I was around 17-18 F). She was married once but he was big and they had an open relationship. Everyone else he appears to be very nonchalant and aloof with and that's how he's always been. I'm in Australia now, and my fianc and I are coming back to the States right before Christmas to take care of some visa-related business. 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You need to (1) report the matter to the local police so they can run an investigation on your dad and try to figure out how bad it is. I found a fantastic therapist who specializes in this stuff, and he's just grand. i feel very uncomfortable with him.. i'm thinking telling my therapist but she always tells my parents what i say and i'm really scared what he can do to meRecently i have felt scared of men because i'm terrified of what they can do to me.I got to say not all men are like that but it's a fear i can't control.can i get some advice? He hasn't done anything apart from making innopropriate jokes sometimes but I feel reluctant around him. Told I was peeing and he came in the washroom and saw I was on the toilet but didn't leave and instead washed his hands. An example of data being processed may be a unique identifier stored in a cookie. For the official Church websites, please visit churchofjesuschrist.org or comeuntochrist.org. Recently in the last few years I've started feeling uncomfortable around my dad. After a few minutes he began touching me again, and it was really making me uncomfortable, and I pushed him away several times, but he continued. I broke up with him after that. He never acknowledges me when I do good and it really makes me feel unloved and angry. That's not a normal thing either. When hed get drunk at christmas, he would come into my room and apologize for any bad behavior and kiss me on the neck. You are stronger than you know and that is also in your favor. I remember that when I was around two or three my dad used to watch porn in front of me, so I don't know if that has something to do with it. He's precarious. Unwise!! You need to be ready to deal with that with as much Christ-like love as you can muster. I find this disturbing. Read More >, This has never happened in our family before. I rushed out of there in tears with no explanation, fetched my sweetheart, and we went back to the cabin and briskly gathered our stuff. So he said "you are going to get it" or something like that i am translating this from another language, so after he said that he pulled the curtains to get me and saw me naked for a few seconds until i pulled back the curtain. May 30, 2014 | AAAA AskGramps Website, Life's Lessons | 5 comments, I dont know what to do and I dont want to be judgmental but I do want to help my family. Things were doable for a few days. Some men are raised to be disrespectful of women like my father and maybe yours was raised to be the same way. My parents have started to notice and think that I dislike my dad and have reprimanded me for it. I think it's fairly common. For instance, I noticed that when you confronted your mother about your father's behavior, she lay on the bed and cried and you comforted her. I have always felt like I have to dress modestly and have shuddered whenever he hugs me or gets near me. I felt really uncomfortable and told him I wasn't sure about what was going on, but he kept trying to kiss on me. I think you already know the answer to that question. I am not comfortable with the energy we've created in the studio today B'). A strange and uncomfortable feeling around my dad and grandpa. You love your Dad, but if he is guilty of the things you think he is then that love should compel you to stop him. I comforted her for a few minutes, and then we left. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Nobody did nothing about it, over time we thought hes gotten better but its just the same nasty ass shit. While it may be too bad that you weren't used to it growing up it's great that you have a chance now to make up for some lost time! But my dad didn't care. Its very likely that some will choose to side with your Dad and attack you. I'd do the "Artist's Way" or something, become clearer in my life, and up it would pop -- still no memory, but a stark, unignorable presence. My dad has not been around much due to his work. Im worried about my dad and the influence hes brought to me and this family. Does he stop kissing you, or does he pressure you to change your mind, or even ignore what youve said and go on kissing you? I dont know what to do and I dont want to be judgmental but I do want to help my family. Continue with Recommended Cookies, By It's wrong. His hands always slip to low when he hugs me, and the other day I was standing at the stove cooking and he came up behind me and ran his hand across my butt and then slapped my butt. In lots of ways, he's had a rough life -- he had a mother who openly admitted not loving him, he had a lonely childhood, and he had a nervous breakdown when he was middle-aged. Your journey is just beginning and it is going to be a long one. Depending on your age, you can seek help on your own. But then, this last summer, two things happened that have made this finally unavoidable and undroppable. I bolted out to the back deck. Wish him the best. Started Saturday at 09:38 PM, By The only time he ever talks to me is to put me down about something. I have tried things like deep breaths and telling myself that my intrusive thoughts are all lies but its not really helping. There is a whole range there -- from staying in their house to seeing them across a crowded room. gymrat44 replied to fcl 's response: I can't think of anyone to feel more comfortable with when being naked. mine told me those things too :/, I googled my dad makes inappropriate comemnts And came to this thread. This was two years after I was molested by two boys in sixth grade. I'm not exactly sure what to say. Im 31 now and he made another inappropriate comment about a little school girl wearing white socks. Boyfriend 24M does not want to use condoms, what do i do? I go into my dads room and hes in bed playing with himself. He's just always been there & that's why I feel so uneasy around him. I basically grew up alone. She could never relate to me or talk to me. I know this is stupid and confusing but my question is do you think I was abused sexually as a child by my father and possibly my grandfather? I minimized it my entire life and convinced . I really believe that he will -- even before this happened, he seemed like a person who was partially dead. Designed by Elegant Themes | Powered by WordPress. Started Monday at 08:56 AM, By Frightening. If you feel uncomfortable then that is already reason enough! Ice queen Fold your arms across your chest. Like this wasn't particularly a surprise to her. My dad was the source of all this. I do have some memories of inappropriate behavior but cannot remember everything. PLEASE HELP !!! I've always felt uncomfortable around the two of them. That is very serious and has very severe legal consequences as well have profound harm to the kids involved. I didn't feel good about going, but I felt worse about canceling. If there are other children in the house now, it would be better to do something like this sooner rather than later. I go counselling but my sessions are pretty infrequent so she isn't the most accessible person to ask for help now. And don't worry, they have heard everything and it will help you. Did he actually love me? Child, I am so sorry this has happened to you. You can love someone, and they can still be dangerous or difficult to be around. 172 views | He said, "Its your problem. Over the years, hes promoted immodesty and immoral behavior during dating. I don't know if I'm being overly sensitive to this or if there's some legitimate reason behind my feelings. Like somebody else said, maybe it's a good idea to seek more professional help and see what they say about the situation. In fact, youre paying them a compliment: youre telling them you trust that theyd never want to make you feel uncomfortable. We'd get out of the house immediately if I felt trapped or upset. I shut my laptop immediately. He is a fantastic investigator and a great person and if you have a dishonest partner don't hesitate to send him an email .. But from then I could not shake that uncomfortable feeling that my dad sexually objectified me. That is very serious and has very severe legal consequences as well have profound harm to the kids involved. My mother is the paranoid, afraid of the world person. I have absolutely no friends. Maybe you can get help at this number. Dont be afraid. 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